I’m going to start off by saying that I give so much credit to mom’s who return to work after having children! First they are showing all of the little girls in the world that you can have, do and be anything they want. Woohoo girl power. Secondly they make it work and make things happen. They spend time with their kids, clean, laundry, homework, their own work. You have to be so organized to keep everyone together! Lastly the fact that they have to get up and get ready. Then get themselves and children to where they need to be it just boggles my mind. If that’s what works for you and your family you are amazing! Keep being that rock-star mom.
Now for us it wasn’t right for our family. After we had JPG3 we decided that I would stay home and take care of him. It has always been my dream and I am a little old fashioned and believe that a parent should be the one to raise their children. Too bad in this day that’s not always the case. Most people need two incomes to just scrape by. Some families only have one parent to start with so it’t not a feasible option. After looking into day-cares and calculating the cost of that, gas, lunches, etc. It just made sense for me to stay at home and Big Daddy work, for at that time he was making more money. Now looking back I thank God that we decided that. JPG3 had so many doctors appointments and therapy appointments over the years I would have probably had to quit sooner or later.
I wish that I could share what my calendar looks like. It really pisses me off when people say “Oh you just stay at home how are you tired?” Or “Oh you don’t work so you can do xyz.” I am now writing this at 11pm because I have been nonstop since 6:45 this morning. I am always alone getting my 3 kids ready to go in the morning, taking them to school, picking them up, taking them all over town and then the one to cook dinner. Yea so some of you are probably thinking ‘No shit, it’s your job!’ Sure it is but I never get to punch out of my job. I am always on, even when they are not with me I am still working. Now you are thinking ‘You chose this life.’ Yes I absolutely did. I love my job. I love the random days that we just sit an color. The best are the zoo days when everyone else is at work. Or having lunch with someone on a Wednesday just because its something to do. I’m not going to lie I LOVE staying in my pjs all day. I love the snuggles at noon before nap time or know that I am here if one of babies is sick. But if you worked all the time you would get burnt out. I don’t have that option to take a sick day or a mental health day.
I even feel that sometimes because I am not bringing any money into our home that I am not contributing. So let me giving you a run down of just today. 6:45 wake-up, kids up, dog out, turtle light on, make lunches, breakfast and out the door. I dropped JPG3 and Rose off JD and I came home we played and watched a show. At 1030 I got a phone call from my MIL asking to take her to the doctor. Ugh it means JD will miss his nap but sure. Leave at 11:45 grab lunch for JD pick up MIL. Then off to the hospital and the doctor. Big Daddy met us there he stayed with his Mom and kept JD. I had to pick JPG3 and Rose up early for a speech therapy appointment. Get there then to Karate until 6. I came home and cooked 3 different dinners. Yes 3 I wanted chicken noodle soup. My weird husband doesn't think that soup is a meal so I made him chicken and potatoes then my very crabby JPG3 wanted to mac and cheese. That got us to bed time I put JD to bed while my soup was cooking and the other two were finishing their dinners. Then I finally got to eat. I put JPG3 and Rose to bed. Made 2 lunches for 2 very sweet girls and I left to drop them off to a teacher that works at the school. (My kids have
an appointment tomorrow and will not be at school) I got home to the older kids still awake I read 2 chapters in a book to them. Right now its almost midnight and I feel that my day has finally ended…...maybe. Some parts of my are not a typical day like the 3 meals. Normally I make one thing and if you don't like it you go to bed hungry! I'm such a mean mom that way. Sometimes when I lay my day out like this it makes my head spin. I’m so used to just going through it at the time its just life.
In a time of mommy wars and mommy shaming. You’re damned it you do and you’re damned if you don’t. How about we lift each up and lean on each other. Learn from each other and cheer each other on. Pick each other up and dust each other off. Mostly don’t think what you are doing is perfect and don’t be a judgy douche!